Your funeral is potentially one of the biggest events of your life – even though you will definitely miss it yourself! Few people spend any time at all thinking about their funeral, but if you do, it can be a great help to your friends and family who are left with that responsibility.

This is your chance to think about the options and ensure it happens in line with your wishes.

When people think about funerals, there is often a tendency to think the only choices are between a church or a crematorium, cremation or burial. However, in reality there are far more variations and options available whether you are religious or not

Here are some of the questions you might want to think about and discuss with your family and friends

  • Where should any service take place? Church, Synagogue, mosque, crematorium, woodland etc.
  • Who do a want to lead the service? A religious leader, a funeral celebrant, a member of the family?
  • Do I want a service at all? You might prefer a direct cremation without any service for example.
  • Should it be formal or informal, serious and sombre or a celebration?
  • Should there be a specific theme that people know me for?
  • What should people wear?
  • What would you want to be dressed in?
  • What sort of coffin do you want?
  • How should it be transported?
  • What music would you like to be played?
  • Do you want people to send flowers?
  • Do you want to request charity donations?
  • Who would you like to speak? Have you asked them? What would you like them to say or read?
  • Do you want to be buried? Where?
  • Do you want to be cremated? Where? Where would you like your ashes scattered?
  • What would you like people to do after any service?
  • Who will pay for it?

To record your thoughts, why not download our Simply Dead – My Wishes template and keep it in a safe place for whoever may needs to organise your final send off.